Matchmaker, matchmaker, make meeee a match

This morning on the way to work I started listening to a podcast of NPR's This American Life. Which, remember that one time when y'all gave me all your best podcast ideas? So much fun. I've added like 35 to try out. My life is now better and more complete.

Anyway. This American Life. It's about matchmaking today, and it began with an interview where a girl recapped a disastrous blind date that one of her very good guy friends arranged for her. The guy turned up hours late and completely stoned. It was not a good date, and she was left wondering exactly what must be wrong with her that her best friend thought that a late, cheap, stoned guy was the best she deserved.

Come to find out, her friend chose this guy because he seemed clean-cut, and her friend thought he might be a good change from the "rough guys" she seems to generally go for. She had no idea that he felt that way about her dating history. Which is where the host talked about how tricky a matchmaking thing is, because you can end up betraying a lot about what you really think about your friends by the people you try to set them up with. The matchmaker is actually risking more than the matchmakee.

This makes me want to look back on my own set ups to see what my friends must really think about me, as shown by their set-up picks:

I am witty and sarcastic (quite true)

I am smart (also true)

I am nice (sometimes, I hope)

I'm okay with being a rebound girl (not true, and I still have not completely let my friends off the hook for that one)

I do not believe good conversation is important (untrue)

I deserve to be lied to and set up with a guy who will take me to Souper Salad and then ignore me (never true)

I'm sure there are more, but I can't think of them at the moment. On the whole I've been lucky. Sure, I've gone on dates where we haven't clicked, but I could see where my friends were coming from and why they thought there could be a possibility. There have only been a couple of times where I've thought, "Seriously? This guy??"

So. What do your friends really think about you and your choices? I'm sure you've got some amazing things to share.

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